Simon Halford BSc MSc Dip Psychotherapy
Dip Psychosexual therapy
Couples Therapy, Psychosexual / Sex Therapy in Central London, Southampton, and Portsmouth
I am an experienced Psychotherapist, specialising in the treatment of sexual and relationship issues using a range of approaches to meet the individual or couple's needs. I offer couples therapy, psychosexual and sex therapy in Southsea (Mon-Wed) and Central London (Thurs-Fri).
I am a COSRT accredited Psychosexual Therapist and an accredited Supervisor. I practice couples therapy and counselling at 96 Harley Street Central London and sex and psychosexual therapy in Southsea, near to Portsmouth and Southampton.
Therapy is strictly confidential, and includes psychodynamic, person centred and cognitive behavioural approaches.
I have worked in the NHS and privately for more than 20 Years and am accredited by the College of Sexual and Relationship Therapists (COSRT) and the UK Council for Psychotherapy (UKCP) .
Typically you would have an initial assessment where mutual suitability can be established, the issue or issues you would like to work on can be discussed, as well as the frequency and number of sessions you might need. Any queries or questions you might have can also be addressed at this time. The cost of a face-to-face session ranges from £80 to £150 depending on location; concessions are available and online sessions cost £80.
Through counselling and therapy I aim to provide a safe environment and practical solutions for exploring and addressing sensitive sexual and relational problems for individuals and couples.
The issues I treat include erectile dysfunction, pain during intercourse, loss of libido (sexual desire), sexual addictions including Internet pornography addictions, relationship difficulties and the impact of serious illnesses including cancer, strokes and cardiovascular issues on sexual function and relationships.
Please feel free to contact me by telephone on 07984 830449. Please leave a message stating your name and number if I am not available to answer, and your call will be returned as soon as possible. Be assured that all messages are dealt with in a sensitive and strictly confidential manner.
I am able to offer couples therapy and counselling, sex therapy and psychosexual therapy in Central London, and Fareham, near to Portsmouth and Southampton.
Recent research is uncovering important neurological and hormonal changes as men become parents. The marked drop in male testosterone and change in neurological activity illustrates this point. Interestingly, the male changes tend to happen over the first two years of the child’s life when in the brains of women, the nurturing aspect is very active. In men the nurturing is present but slightly less pronounced - but the planning for the future, the scaffolding for the child going forward longer term, seems to be much more active.
The issues raised in this article apply every bit as much to same sex couples as to heterosexual couples, and in essence, when talking about ‘male’ I am talking about the ‘male style’ of parenting which means it’s more typical of males rather than fundamentally male. Equally, a child seems to flourish with a female and male style of parenting that is referred to in this article - not that only men or women can provide either style. Dad doesn’t equal genes, dad equals roles.
If we imagine a typical playground scene, a woman might prevent a child from having accidents, whereas the male is more distant in proximity and might allow the child to make mistakes and even have small accidents. Sometimes women can feel that men are indifferent, careless, or even lazy as fathers, and yet it seems this style of relationship has an important place in the child’s growth. Rather than criticising, we could celebrate this difference and recognise that both styles offer an important contribution to the child’s development.
Similarly, men tend to play more roughly with children and are typically favoured by children as play partners. This active type of parenting promotes language, working memory, inhibitory control, attention, executive function and general stimulation and development. This also contributes to good mental health and self esteem, whilst the absence of male-style parenting is associated with various mental health issues, including loneliness and depression.
Interestingly, we are now recognising that men often experience post-natal depression (PND). Unlike women, their depression tends to be characterised by high levels of anxiety.
For men out there who are finding fatherhood (or the prospect of it) challenging, don’t hesitate to reach out for therapeutic support.
Ref: Machin, A (2018) The Life of Dad: The Making of the Modern Father, Simon & Schuster Ltd