Simon Halford BSc MSc Dip Psychotherapy
Dip Psychosexual therapy
Couples Therapy, Psychosexual / Sex Therapy in Central London, Southampton, and Portsmouth
I am an experienced Psychotherapist, specialising in the treatment of sexual and relationship issues using a range of approaches to meet the individual or couple's needs. I offer couples therapy, psychosexual and sex therapy in Fareham (Mon-Wed) and Central London (Thurs-Fri).
I am a COSRT accredited Psychosexual Therapist and an accredited Supervisor. I practice couples therapy and counselling at 96 Harley Street Central London and sex and psychosexual therapy in Fareham, near to Portsmouth and Southampton.
Therapy is strictly confidential, and includes psychodynamic, person centred and cognitive behavioural approaches.
I have worked in the NHS and privately for more than 20 Years and am accredited by the College of Sexual and Relationship Therapists (COSRT) and the UK Council for Psychotherapy (UKCP) .
Typically you would have an initial assessment where mutual suitability can be established, the issue or issues you would like to work on can be discussed, as well as the frequency and number of sessions you might need. Any queries or questions you might have can also be addressed at this time. The cost of each session ranges from £60 to £150 depending on location; concessions are available.
Through counselling and therapy I aim to provide a safe environment and practical solutions for exploring and addressing sensitive sexual and relational problems for individuals and couples.
The issues I treat include erectile dysfunction, pain during intercourse, loss of libido (sexual desire), sexual addictions including Internet pornography addictions, relationship difficulties and the impact of serious illnesses including cancer, strokes and cardiovascular issues on sexual function and relationships.
Please feel free to contact me by telephone on 07984 830449. Please leave a message stating your name and number if I am not available to answer, and your call will be returned as soon as possible. Be assured that all messages are dealt with in a sensitive and strictly confidential manner.
I am able to offer couples therapy and counselling, sex therapy and psychosexual therapy in Central London, and Fareham, near to Portsmouth and Southampton.
Current News - February 2020
How are your New Year’s resolutions going? Maybe they’re going really well, or perhaps they’ve fallen by the wayside. We often use the beginning of a new year to motivate us to make a change in our lives and even if we don’t always manage to follow them through, it at least provides us with an opportunity to re-evaluate what’s really important to us.
It might be interesting to identify a few significant relationships around you and consider where they are at the moment and where you’d like them to be in 2021. We are often reactive to relationships and it might be helpful to decide to be more proactive.
We might decide, for example, that we’re a little bit distant from our partner at the moment, and would like to become closer. This could well be achieved by a combination of activities, such as working on empathy and spending more quality time together. One way to grow in our capacity to empathise is that we could simply mark our diary on a particular day and when we get home on that day, spend half an hour parking our own content and exploring how things are going for our partner in a rather more focused way. And to have more quality time together you might book in a quarterly weekend away, or a regular evening to do something nice together that you can both look forward to.
Your relationships with your children may be another area where you’d like to invest. Perhaps you’re struggling to connect with one of your children, or you’re encountering age-related issues (I have a 13-year-old, I’m an expert in this!). Identifying a project that you can do together is a great start to enhancing the relationship. It could be anything - gardening, cooking, cinema - something you do regularly with them, come what may.
Most of us have family members who we are fond of but we don’t always give the relationship the effort it deserves. I was struck by the story of a young man whose uncle died. His grandparents were grieving and quite depressed. The young man contacted several charities and one got back to him - they offered group therapy for grieving parents. He took his grandparents to their first meeting and they came out visibly lighter, reporting that it was a positive experience.
Friendships are so important to our health and wellbeing and it’s worth making an effort to maintain the connection. One might include texting them with something you value about them, or suggesting a way of meeting up. If you have a friend that you have a running difficulty with, you might arrange quality time together to explore the relationship and to discuss any issues. If you find yourself lacking in genuine friendships, perhaps it’s a good time to join a group, class or club where you are likely to find others who share your interests.
Finally, our relationships with our work colleagues can sometimes be neglected, even though we spend a big chunk of our week with them. Maybe you could have a coffee with somebody who you’d like to get to know more, or spend a bit more time appreciating the qualities and achievements of someone who reports to you. There may also be people in a different team who you’d benefit having a better relationship with. Don’t be afraid to reach out and make the first move!
Investing in our relationships is one of the best things we can do for our own wellbeing, as well as for others. They protect our bodies and minds and improve the quality of our lives in a way that money and possessions can’t.
You could make 2020 the year of enhanced relationships.