Simon Halford BSc MSc Dip Psychotherapy
Dip Psychosexual therapy
Couples Therapy, Psychosexual / Sex Therapy in Central London, Southampton, and Portsmouth
I am an experienced Psychotherapist, specialising in the treatment of sexual and relationship issues using a range of approaches to meet the individual or couple's needs. I offer couples therapy, psychosexual and sex therapy in Fareham (Mon-Wed) and Central London (Thurs-Fri).
I practice couples therapy and counselling at 96 Harley Street Central London and sex and psychosexual therapy in Fareham, near to Portsmouth and Southampton.
Therapy is strictly confidential, and includes psychodynamic, person centred and cognitive behavioural approaches.
I have worked in the NHS and privately for more than 20 Years and am accredited by the College of Sexual and Relationship Therapists (COSRT) and the UK Council for Psychotherapy (UKCP) .
Typically you would have an initial assessment where mutual suitability can be established, the issue or issues you would like to work on can be discussed, as well as the frequency and number of sessions you might need. Any queries or questions you might have can also be addressed at this time. The cost of each session ranges from £60 to £150 depending on location; concessions are available.
Through counselling and therapy I aim to provide a safe environment and practical solutions for exploring and addressing sensitive sexual and relational problems for individuals and couples.
The issues I treat include erectile dysfunction, pain during intercourse, loss of libido (sexual desire), sexual addictions including Internet pornography addictions, relationship difficulties and the impact of serious illnesses including cancer, strokes and cardiovascular issues on sexual function and relationships.
Please feel free to contact me by telephone on 07984 830449. Please leave a message stating your name and number if I am not available to answer, and your call will be returned as soon as possible. Be assured that all messages are dealt with in a sensitive and strictly confidential manner. I am able to offer couples therapy and counselling, sex therapy and psychosexual therapy in Central London, and Fareham, near to Portsmouth and Southampton.
Current News - August 2018
Teenagers do not necessarily want to discuss sex with parents as it is a private and a sensitive topic. However, I believe it is possible and immensely valuable for a family to be able to sit around the table being comfortable to share their curiosities around sex and relationships, as it is such a healthy and natural part of teenage life.
Many wish for their children to have a different experience of parenting and relationships than they themselves have had. Religious backgrounds can contribute to this as they can imbue a sense of shame and guilt about sex at worst, and at best, often a sense of awkwardness. Parents often wish to support their children in this delicate area but are slightly at a loss as to how to do it, however the teenage journey is too complex to manage on their own or with only their peers.
We live in times where teenagers are subjected to many messages around sex and relationships and the Internet and social media are key influences. Parents need to develop a coherent strategy to approach this that remains consistent between them, built on understanding rather than shame and guilt. It is up to parents to determine whether this is about firm boundaries, flexible boundaries, allowing children to make their own decisions or a combination of these. It is important for teenagers to navigate the Internet safely, learning about safe practice around issues such as sending images, meeting strangers online, and posting personal content on social media sites. It it also hugely beneficial for parents to discuss pornography with their children; to talk about how it objectifies women and men and to identify its two-dimensional nature that is totally lacking in emotional and relational content.
Learning to discriminate what constitutes a healthy relationship is a vital skill for young people and this is unarguably helped by parents modelling a healthy relationship, recognising that the way you relate as partners is offering positive or less positive messages to them. Skills such as the capacity to empathise and recognising when someone is being overly controlling are essential tools for helping teenagers make better decisions about their relationships.
In my experience, parents care deeply about these issues but often lack the confidence to address them skilfully. It’s my firm belief that exploring and discussing the issues with each other and possibly a professional can lead to a more confident and skilful approach to this complex parenting challenge.