Simon Halford BSc MSc Dip Psychotherapy
Dip Psychosexual therapy
Couples Therapy, Psychosexual / Sex Therapy in Central London, Southampton, and Portsmouth
I am an experienced Psychotherapist, specialising in the treatment of sexual and relationship issues using a range of approaches to meet the individual or couple's needs. I offer couples therapy, psychosexual and sex therapy in Fareham (Mon-Wed) and Central London (Thurs-Fri).
I am a COSRT accredited Psychosexual Therapist and an accredited Supervisor. I practice couples therapy and counselling at 96 Harley Street Central London and sex and psychosexual therapy in Fareham, near to Portsmouth and Southampton.
Therapy is strictly confidential, and includes psychodynamic, person centred and cognitive behavioural approaches.
I have worked in the NHS and privately for more than 20 Years and am accredited by the College of Sexual and Relationship Therapists (COSRT) and the UK Council for Psychotherapy (UKCP) .
Typically you would have an initial assessment where mutual suitability can be established, the issue or issues you would like to work on can be discussed, as well as the frequency and number of sessions you might need. Any queries or questions you might have can also be addressed at this time. The cost of each session ranges from £60 to £150 depending on location; concessions are available.
Through counselling and therapy I aim to provide a safe environment and practical solutions for exploring and addressing sensitive sexual and relational problems for individuals and couples.
The issues I treat include erectile dysfunction, pain during intercourse, loss of libido (sexual desire), sexual addictions including Internet pornography addictions, relationship difficulties and the impact of serious illnesses including cancer, strokes and cardiovascular issues on sexual function and relationships.
Please feel free to contact me by telephone on 07984 830449. Please leave a message stating your name and number if I am not available to answer, and your call will be returned as soon as possible. Be assured that all messages are dealt with in a sensitive and strictly confidential manner.
I am able to offer couples therapy and counselling, sex therapy and psychosexual therapy in Central London, and Fareham, near to Portsmouth and Southampton.
Current News - June 2019
A recent survey by relationship charity Relate found that half (47%) of relationship counsellors and sex therapists have seen an increase in relationship problems linked to pornography. Porn has become so readily available that its consumption is on the rise, and because of its addictive nature it has a tendency to escalate. In addition, the gap is narrowing between the number of men vs the number of women who watch porn.
The evidence that porn can harm relationships is overwhelming. Studies show that porn addiction directly relates to problems with sexual satisfaction in a relationship, libido, erectile dysfunction and arousal. Porn can communicate several unhelpful messages about sex and men/women; for example, the message that sex is almost entirely about getting physical pleasure without regard for the emotional and relationship aspect of sex and intimacy, or that women are largely portrayed as objects for men’s pleasure.
Pornography is also having a profound effect on younger people who are exposed to it online from an alarmingly early age. This colours their view of what is considered to be ‘normal’ in a relationship and significantly shapes their ideas around consent, expectations and performance. Sexual fantasies are heavily influenced by porn and this too can create undue pressure on relationships. Porn addiction will almost certainly limit a person’s potential to develop intimacy skills and form lasting relationships.
It is often the case that couples ignore sexual problems and turn to the ‘quick fix’ of porn to meet their needs, rather than working on their relationship and sex life together. Then there is a felt sense of betrayal and confusion when one partner discovers that the other has been looking at pornography. It can make them feel like they aren’t “enough” and that they must be undesirable or unattractive.
We need to understand the damaging effects of pornography and to educate ourselves and our children about the negative impact it can have on relationships.
I find in my clinic more and more people coming to deal with their porn addiction and get help forming relationships or support in repairing the damage that it has done to existing relationships. It is possible to quit porn and replace it with healthy habits that will enable relationships to grow and flourish.