Simon Halford BSc MSc Dip Psychotherapy
Dip Psychosexual therapy
Couples Therapy, Psychosexual / Sex Therapy in Central London, Southampton, and Portsmouth
I am an experienced Psychotherapist, specialising in the treatment of sexual and relationship issues using a range of approaches to meet the individual or couple's needs. I offer couples therapy, psychosexual and sex therapy in Southsea (Mon-Wed) and Central London (Thurs-Fri).
I am a COSRT accredited Psychosexual Therapist and an accredited Supervisor. I practice couples therapy and counselling at 96 Harley Street Central London and sex and psychosexual therapy in Southsea, near to Portsmouth and Southampton.
Therapy is strictly confidential, and includes psychodynamic, person centred and cognitive behavioural approaches.
I have worked in the NHS and privately for more than 20 Years and am accredited by the College of Sexual and Relationship Therapists (COSRT) and the UK Council for Psychotherapy (UKCP) .
Typically you would have an initial assessment where mutual suitability can be established, the issue or issues you would like to work on can be discussed, as well as the frequency and number of sessions you might need. Any queries or questions you might have can also be addressed at this time. The cost of a face-to-face session ranges from £80 to £150 depending on location; concessions are available and online sessions cost £80.
Through counselling and therapy I aim to provide a safe environment and practical solutions for exploring and addressing sensitive sexual and relational problems for individuals and couples.
The issues I treat include erectile dysfunction, pain during intercourse, loss of libido (sexual desire), sexual addictions including Internet pornography addictions, relationship difficulties and the impact of serious illnesses including cancer, strokes and cardiovascular issues on sexual function and relationships.
Please feel free to contact me by telephone on 07984 830449. Please leave a message stating your name and number if I am not available to answer, and your call will be returned as soon as possible. Be assured that all messages are dealt with in a sensitive and strictly confidential manner.
I am able to offer couples therapy and counselling, sex therapy and psychosexual therapy in Central London, and Fareham, near to Portsmouth and Southampton.
We suddenly find ourselves in a global crisis, with many changes happening quickly to our daily lives that are out of our control. At this time it is a good idea to take stock of how this is impacting you, your family, and your mental health. Although this is a challenging time for everyone, there are things we can do to protect yourself and help others.
Working from home
With strict social distancing measures in place, lots of people are now working remotely and noticing that the boundaries between work and home have to be re-established in a creative way.
Normally, when we are traveling to/from work, we have some space and time to think and de-compress. Now we are more likely going straight from one thing to another, such as talking with our partner or playing with our children, and there is no ‘buffer zone’ to re-charge ourselves.
Marking the end of work/beginning of play can be beneficial in these circumstances and you might find it useful to take your daily exercise outside at a strategic time to help ‘change gear.'
Whether we have mental health struggles or not, many of us are probably experiencing a whole range of thoughts and feelings, such a loneliness or heightened anxiety. The things that usually help us manage our mental health may be getting cancelled - fun and social things are being taken away and progress can be stymied. It’s therefore important to have a plan in place to help us stay on track.
All of us benefit from a degree of structure and organisation and this is a time when we need to take responsibility for our own health and wellbeing. Perhaps you could create a daily programme (for example; exercise at 8am, start work at 9am, tea break at 10:30am, etc) or try some mindfulness meditations to help you stay calm and connected with yourself. Practising these daily rituals can help us to feel more safe, secure and grounded.
This period of isolation is also an opportunity to invest in our relationships and do nice things together, such as watching a movie, playing a game or going for a walk. It’s a good idea to plan these in advance and put boundaries around them so that other tasks don’t encroach on them.
Try to include things you both like and be creative. It’s all too easy to fall into the trap of squandering the extra time you have through mindless activities such as social media scrolling, so try to plan time away from screens and make the most of it!
If you are separated from elderly and vulnerable family members or your children (in case of separation/divorce), it’s important to keep in touch regularly and for this to be quality time. For example, you may choose a specific day and time to video chat and agree that other distractions will be put on hold so that you can really engage with each other. This is particularly valuable for those living alone.
Keeping up with the latest news, being online and using social media can be equally helpful or unhelpful when anxiety levels are high. It may be a good idea to notice how you feel when you are doing these things - if it’s making you anxious or worried, then it’s worth evaluating how much online content you consume and whether it’s wise to set healthier limits.
It is good to be reminded that we are not alone through this experience and each person is facing their own unique challenges and circumstances. Verbally processing with others can be a lifeline during isolation and you’d be surprised how much better you can feel just by talking things through, particularly if you struggle with mental health issues. Calling a friend or family member for support is absolutely invaluable. Alternatively, you may find it beneficial to reach out for professional support.