Simon Halford BSc MSc Dip Psychotherapy
Dip Psychosexual therapy
Couples Therapy, Psychosexual / Sex Therapy in Central London, Southampton, and Portsmouth
I am an experienced Psychotherapist, specialising in the treatment of sexual and relationship issues using a range of approaches to meet the individual or couple's needs. I offer couples therapy, psychosexual and sex therapy in Farnham (Mon-Wed) and Central London (Thurs-Fri).
I practice couples therapy and counselling at 96 Harley Street Central London and sex and psychosexual therapy in Fareham, near to Portsmouth and Southampton.
Therapy is strictly confidential, and includes psychodynamic, person centred and cognitive behavioural approaches.
I have worked in the NHS and privately for more than 20 Years and am accredited by the College of Sexual and Relationship Therapists (COSRT) and the UK Council for Psychotherapy (UKCP) .
Typically you would have an initial assessment where mutual suitability can be established, the issue or issues you would like to work on can be discussed, as well as the frequency and number of sessions you might need. Any queries or questions you might have can also be addressed at this time. The cost of each session ranges from £60 to £150 depending on location; concessions are available.
Through counselling and therapy I aim to provide a safe environment and practical solutions for exploring and addressing sensitive sexual and relational problems for individuals and couples.
The issues I treat include erectile dysfunction, pain during intercourse, loss of libido (sexual desire), sexual addictions including Internet pornography addictions, relationship difficulties and the impact of serious illnesses including cancer, strokes and cardiovascular issues on sexual function and relationships.
Please feel free to contact me by telephone on 07984 830449. Please leave a message stating your name and number if I am not available to answer, and your call will be returned as soon as possible. Be assured that all messages are dealt with in a sensitive and strictly confidential manner. I am able to offer couples therapy and counselling, sex therapy and psychosexual therapy in Central London, and Fareham, near to Portsmouth and Southampton.
Current News - April 2018
The menopause is a natural part of the ageing process which occurs as a woman’s oestrogen levels decline. It is probably pointless to try to describe the menopause but more useful to capture how personalised it is. The menopause varies greatly in the range and severity of symptoms, timing of onset and duration. In some ways it is like puberty in that it is a significant life transition, however puberty has a considerable degree of commonality while menopause is typified by uniqueness and difference. Because of this it is important for women not to compare their symptoms with others, but to talk to each other about their experience.
There are stereotypical symptoms of menopause, such as hot flushes which can be variously impactful, but the range of symptoms and how they are experienced varies enormously.
Intimate relationships can be affected in a number of ways. There is often an over focus on sexual issues; libido, arousal and physical responses such as lubrication can all be profoundly affected. However, being hot and ‘moody’ can result in a partner and/or children to be pushed away while the very thing that both partners in a relationship need at times is reassurance and love. The challenge here is how to keep emotional trust and closeness.
It is helpful to remember that menopause always happens in a context. Professionally a woman may reach the highest levels of demand in her work, right at a time when her resources are depleted by the menopause. Or, she may be dealing with a loss of some aspects of her female identity right at a time when her children are fleeing the nest. Women often find the impact of the menopause on their work place quite distressing. Issues of focus, clarity and perception can all be variously affected and often compounded by both relational tensions and physical symptoms.
It is also important to acknowledge that medical treatment of some of the symptoms have developed considerably from the HRT (hormone replacement therapy) approach of the recent past. More subtle treatments (such as other medications or talking therapies) of various symptoms are increasingly becoming available.
What to do
Give yourself permission to experience your own symptoms and their significance in a personally felt way. Acknowledge that it can be impactful in work, at home and in intimate relationships. Don’t compare yourself to others - your experience is unique. Journal your own symptoms and consider their impact on you.
There is no need to suffer alone - know that there is support out there and you can choose to seek help in dealing with this complex life transition. Discuss with a psychosexual specialist to explore what can be treated medically and what could benefit from talking therapy.